Abuse, Foster Care & Trauma Survivor
Author, Advocate, Speaker, Life Inspirer - Helen Ramaglia
From Foster to Fabulous
One Little Girl's Journey through Abuse, Foster Care
Aging out and Life Beyond
Too afraid of the monster called “The Unknown”, coupled with the inability to articulate my feelings, needs, or wants, kept me caged in a silent prison for many years. This fear would define my life for decades. There would be many years of trauma due to my lack of life skills and inability to communicate. I aged out, deciding my only choice was to marry three weeks before I turned 18. It was either that, or take the handful of sleeping pills I was holding because I couldn't face the overwhelming fear of homelessness.
We are the proud new parents of two beautiful, sweet little boys adopted from foster care. We add these two precious little bundles to our family. With my two grown biological children, we are a family of six.
I sit here and I look at my life and I can’t believe it’s my life. Ordinary people don’t have lives like this. This kind of life exists only in movies or in books, however, this is my life and it’s real. I sit here and I am crying about the horrors of yesterday, yet am amazed at whom and where I am today. How did this happen? How could a little girl so battered and traumatized have such an awesome and amazing life?
If you don’t believe in God… today is the day. You don’t get from there to here without divine intervention. It’s not possible. This is not a rags to riches story, this goes so much deeper. It’s the impossible, becoming possible. Only God can create miracles, and I am a miracle. I feel like I’m God’s little miracle. After all, he was the only one who was there for me through everything, no matter what. God loved me unconditionally and he didn't judge me the way man judged me. He believed in me when America didn't deem me worthy.
Come........follow me, take a journey you will never forget. Walk in the shoes of a foster child for just one day.........
Only then will you truly understand, why!
Read - From Foster to Fabulous today.
Hi ... My name is Helen Ramaglia
And I AM - From Foster to Fabulous
A childhood of abuse, and an adult life of bad decisions, lead me to the breaking point. It was then that I fell on my knees and gave my all go God. A defining moment. Looking back, it was merely one of many gifts in my life.
Today, I know my strengths - and I know my weaknesses. And THAT my friends - is where TRUE POWER LIVES! We all have areas of weakness. It's about recognizing them. It's about recognizing our limitations and using our strengths to over come them.
I struggle GREATLY with communication! But I refuse to let it define - 'Who' I am . 'Who' I can become . Or, 'What' I can achieve.
It hasn't always been like that. I truly let it define me for most of my life. You see - I was born into Satan's world. Addiction, abuse, domestic violence. And the fight to crawl out has been unlike anything else in this world. It's so bad, it defies explanation. And I was a good kid! As a result, I grew up feeling invisible, unloved & unwanted. I felt so unworthy! I didn't know that 'I' existed, or that 'I' even mattered! I have since learned about 'trauma'. It's a prison of hopelessness & helplessness. And there's often no way out. Unless someone throws you a 'rope of hope'. That's right - someone threw me a 'glimmer of hope'. A faint little light that I desperately clung to. Hope penetrated my heart and my soul. It sang with joy.
I learned this year that giving it to 'Him', doesn't always mean 'just giving it to HIM'. Sometimes, giving it to Him means using the resources He has provided! You! My family! My sister's in Christ! My girl friends!
I became so broken this past year that I finally tore open the wounds and shared my heart. Not just the surface! The blood - and the guts. The deepest depths of my heart. That's what girl friends do. they bleed all over each other. They minister to one another and they fill each other's tanks. Words of encouragement; Words of wisdom. And sometimes, even a little dose of reality.
I learned that life without girl friends is a pretty lonely place. But I didn't realize how important 'girl friends were' until I found out 'what girl friends do'. And then I had to learn 'how to be a girlfriend'. Because in Satan's world - there are no girl friends. Just survival. Trauma. Loneliness.
But this past year - I reached out to you. And what I found was beautiful. You came quickly and you listened to me. You loved on me and you hugged on me. You didn't judge me. You saw the beauty behind the mess and you told me what I needed to hear. Not just what I wanted to hear. That's what girl friends do.
It took embracing my brokenness and allowing my girl friends, my sisters in Christ, the opportunity to hug on me and love on me. They filled tanks I never knew I had. They restored Me! They restored my HOPE! It was just what I needed.
We live in a world lacking in 'hope'. Invite me to spread a little light
in your community today. We all have good times, and we all have dark times. Allow me to throw a 'rope of hope' that can spread a glimmer of light to brighten to even the darkest of moments.
Fostering SuperStars -
A 501(c)3 not-for-profit organization serving foster children in our community; a 100% volunteer ran organization.
Our mission: To create a nation of thriving, loving, successful foster children on the road to phenomenal.
- Where foster children feel, valued and wanted, each and every day.
- Where foster children don't age out, they are guided out.
- Where communities are foster informed, foster educated and foster connected.
What we do: At Fostering SuperStars, we celebrate foster children living in group homes by celebrating them and their birthday. Not as a group home as a whole, but individual birthday parties for each and every child. By celebrating every birthday individually, we have the opportunity to visit each group home numerous times. Allowing us to create lasting relationships.
Creating successful foster children depends on building trustworthy relationships with children who often fear the world. This means learning how to interact with a child who often views 'world' and 'reality' in a way that only a foster & abused child can.
Building lasting relationships enhances long term success for children living in foster care, before they leave care.
Celebrating Foster Children One Group Home at a Time.
"Aging out of foster care is our failure as a nation to provide the greatest need a child has . . . family."